Recognizing my triggers
The following is a huge vent. Don't take it seriously.
Today I learned that doing something good for myself stirs up my demons. Saw pdoc today and every impulse is pushing me to sabotage my own efforts. Related to growing up and being trained not to talk to social workers, teachers, or anyone outside the family about what was going on. Still have that conditioning to keep secrets so talking about my issues honestly brings out the fear of punishment, and the fear of being found out and thrown in a prison as that was the threat used to keep us kids from talking to CPS. I've noticed this same fear come up from going to therapy, getting a massage, or basically anything else that could expose me to the Kafkaesque system that wants to file all the round pegs into squares rather than let us find our own round areas to settle in.
Pdoc officially said I have treatment resistant depression. Well, duh, but still it was easier to accept in the back of my mind than to have that actually come from the dude writing my scripts. Why do I allow myself to get worked up about a diagnosis? I can't change it by will. Nonetheless I'm still thinking holy shit what if I get diagnosed as borderline or avoidant personality disorder. Isn't that just a professional way of saying I'm a huge jerk?
I've had one therapist though who assured me that I'm not borderline (even though I have the unstable personality characteristics and poor relationship skills) because I have a high degree of empathy and I can realistically interpret others' intentions after accounting for my cognitive distortions. Bless her heart - I need a new therapist like that (she was at the university and I've graduated now so couldn't see her again). My therapists/pdocs since then seem to be more about tearing me down by focusing on my drinking and discounting my progress as self serving bias. Why the hell should my self esteem be determined by my darkest weaknesses though. I have good traits too.
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